Fencing Your Home Around with the Concrete of Love

In many parts of the world, especially in crime-prone societies, it is a common practice for home owners to spend huge amount of money to build concrete fences around their residences. The walls are so high that the houses behind them are hardly visible, except in cases where the houses are multi-storey; and they are so hard that even bullets cannot pierce through them. To add to that, sophisticated electronic security appliances are installed to enhance seamless security for the comfort of those who live in those homes.

It is, however, ironical that after such monies have been spent to secure the homes, dwellers, though protected from external criminal invasion, live entirely bereft of equanimity.The internal terror they encounter day by day makes a mockery of thousands of well-armed robbers, who attack at dead of night. The reason being that, the home, though well fortified with technological contraptions, lack the basic ingredient that could guarantee peace of mind: Love.

Love is essential in a home, where peace, joy and resultant good health and longevity must be found. The absence of love in a home makes such an abode a little more than a pub, where fracas can erupt at will. Thus lives of dwellers are exposed to fatal hazards, whose danger, carefully built man-made walls can only abet.

The beauty and aesthetic details of a multi-million dollar mansion does not guarantee the comfort of its occupants, where love is elusive. Indeed, such an edifice can end up as house of horror, where murder and all sort of bizarre acts occur. There have been mansions in which multiple suicides and murders occurred. In spite of walls, which no hi-tech criminals can penetrate, a home devoid of love is as porous and defenseless as a village market place.

The security that one needs for equanimity and longevity is more than erecting man-made concrete walls and installing hi-tech security devices. Where there is love, couples can brave the horror and sleep like babies unruffled in an open field at night.

In a home where there is no love, everybody feels insecure. Children dread their parents’ footfall. Parents, as well, feel their wards would join killer gangs to come at them. All exist in mutual suspicion. Even in broad daylight danger incarnate in concrete apparition. None can take another into confidence. High blood pressure and cardiac arrest become regular visitors; while life expectancy nose-dives precariously. The home, though fenced with concrete, becomes exposed to uncertain death.

Love is the greatest defence in a home. Its protective potency out-smarts the strongest concrete wall, or all the magic of technological contraptions. It strengthens filial confidence and guarantees the assurance of impervious bond of fraternity.

To cultivate the kind of love that would fence the home against lethal attack, one must

1.      be willing and ready to forgive an offence before it crystallizes into malice,

2.      destroy records of offence accumulated over time,

3.      keep an open mind and be ready to own up to his shortcomings,

4.      be meek enough to say sorry when he steps on the toes of others,

5.      realize that one sterling act of love can erase the hurt of a million years,

6.        be willing and ready to take the first step to sow love, and to counter the hate of yesterday with genuine forgiveness and act of love.

7.      Learn that we will always offend one another as long as we go together, but the sublime virtue lies in our ability to forgive one another and forge ahead as though nothing has ever happened,

8.      show concern in one another’s endeavour, and criticize with love, with a mind to build up and not to pull down, and

9.      provide a shoulder on which others should fall for soothing comfort, when threatened from without and when disappointed from within.

We feel safe in the arms of those we love.